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"May God console you among the other mourners of Zion and Jerusalem"        Ha'makom yenahem etkhem betokh she'ar avelei Tziyonvi'Yerushalayim
Hebrew blessing for mourners
     Lion of judah

   MOURNERS KADDISH
    EL MALEI RACHAMIN 
   
TZIDDUK HADIN

    PRAYER FOR LIGHTING THE SHIVA CANDLE

    PRAYERS ON THE UNVEILING OF MONUMENTS  
  
 
   
PSALM 23
    PSALM 90
   
PSALM 121
   
 
   AV HARACHAMIN
    YISKOR                                                                                            Listen to Prayers in Hebrew
                                                                                                                    recited by Cantor Shore

 
MOURNERS KADDISH

Let the glory of God be extolled, Let God's great name be hallowed,
in the world whose creation God willed.
May God's sovereignty soon prevail, in our day, our own lives,
and the life of all Israel, and let us say, Amen.

Let God's great name be blessed forever and ever.
Let the name of God be glorified, exalted and honored,
though God is beyond all the praises, songs and adorations
that we can utter,
and let us say Amen.

For us and for all Israel, may the blessing of peace
and the promise of life come true,
and let us say Amen.

May God who causes peace to reign in the high heavens,
Let peace descend on us, on all Israel and all the world,
and let us say, Amen.

Yitgadal ve-yitkadash sh'mei raba                                                           hebrew kasdish
b'alma di v'ra khir'utei, v'yamlikh
malkhutei
be-hayeikhon u-ve'yomeikhon u-ve-hayei d'khol beit yisrael,
ba-agala
u-vi-z'man kariv, v'imru, amen.

Y'hei sh'mei raba m'varakh l'alam, u-l'almei almaya.
Yitbarakh v'yishtabah v'yitpa'ar,
v'yitromam v'yitnasei,
v'yit-hadar
v'yit'aleh v'yit-halal
sh'mei d'kudsha, b'rikh hu
l'ela min kol
birkhata v'shirata,
tushb'hata, v'nehemata
da'amiran b'alma v'imru, amen.

Y'hei sh'lama raba min sh'maya,
v'hayim aleinu v'al kol yisrael, v'imru, amen.

Oseh shalom bi-m'romav,
hu ya'aseh shalom aleinu
v'al kol yisrael, v'imru, amen.

EL MALEI RACHAMIN

O God, full of mercy, Who dwells on high,
Grant proper rest on the wings of the Divine Presence -
In the lofty levels of the holy and the pure ones,
Who shine like the glow of the flame -
For the soul of (…….) who has gone on to his world,
Because, without making a vow,
I will contribute to do charity in remembrance of his soul.
May his resting place be in the Garden of Eden -
Therefore may the Master of Mercy
Shelter him in the shelter of His wings for Eternity,
And may He bind his soul in the Bond of Life.

The Lord is his heritage,
And may he repose in peace on his resting place.
Amen.

E-l malei rachamim,
shochayn bam'romim,
ham-tzay m'nucha n'chona
al kanfay Hash'china,
b'ma-alot k'doshim ut-horim
k'zo-har haraki-a mazhirim,
et nishmat (Name of the Deceased)
she-halach l-olamo,
ba-avur sheb'li neder etayn tz'dakah
b'ad hazkarat nishmato.
B'gan Ayden t'hay m'nuchato;
la-chayn Ba-al Harachamim
yas-tiray-hu b'sayter k'nafav l'olamim,
v'yitz-ror bitz-ror hacha-yim et nishmato,
Ado-nay Hu na-chalato,
v'yanu-ach b'shalom al mishkavo.
V'nomar: Amen.


TZIDDUK HADIN

The Rock! – Perfect is His work, for all His paths are justice; a God of faith without iniquity,righteous and fair is He.
The Rock! – Perfect in every work. Who can say to Him, ‘what have you done?' He rules below andabove, brings death and resuscitates, brings down to the grave and raises up.
The Rock! – Perfect in every deed. Who can say to Him, 'What do you do?' O He who says and does, do undeserved kindness with us. In the merit of him [Isaac] who was bound like a lamb, hearken and act.
O righteous one in all His ways, O Rock who is perfect – slow to anger and full of mercy – take pity and please spare parents and children, for yours, O master, are forgiveness and mercy.

Righteous are you, God, to bring death and to resuscitate, for in Your hand is the safekeeping of all spirits. It would be sacrilegious for You to erase our memory. May your eyes mercifully take cognizance of us, for Yours, O master, are mercy and forgiveness.

A man, whether he be a year old, or whether he lives a thousand years, what does it profit him? As if he has never been shall he be. Blessed is the true judge, who brings death and resuscitates.

Blessed is He, for His judgment is true, He scans everything with His eye, and He recompenses man according to His account and His just sentence. All must give His name acknowledgment.

We know, God, that Your judgment is righteous, You are righteous when You speak and pure when You judge: and there is no complaining about the attribute of Your judgment. Righteous are You, God, and Your judgments are fair.

O true judge, judge of righteousness and truth. Blessed is the true judge, for all of His judgments are righteous and true.

The soul of all the living is in your hand, righteousness fills your right hand and your power. Have mercy on the remnant of the sheep of your hand, and say to the angel [of death], 'Hold back your hand!'

Great in counsel and abundant in deed, Your eyes are open upon all the ways of the children of man, to give man according to his ways and according to the fruit of his deeds.

To declare that God is just, my rock in whom there is no wrong.

God gave and God took, blessed be the name of God.

He, the merciful one, is forgiving of iniquity and does not destroy, frequently withdrawing His anger, not arousing His entire rage.


PRAYER FOR LIGHTING THE SHIVA CANDLE

Oh God, grant us strength as we mourn the loss of ___________________. We light this candle a symbol of loss and connection, presence and absence. His/her spirit lives on with us in our cherished memories and in our hearts. 
Bless our family with light and peace. May we find comfort as we draw together in this candle's light. May _________'s memory continue to serve as a blessing and inspiration for all of us.

We light this candle at a time of great darkness, praying that during this shiva period, the love and caring that surround us will bring us back toward the light.

PSALM 90 
  
 
A Prayer of Moses

Adonai, You have been our refuge in every generation.
Before the mountains were born or the earth was formed.
From everlasting to everlasting
You are God.
You turn a person to dust
You say, "Return O mortals!"
A thousand years are in Your sight.
As  a passing day, an hour of night.

You carry us away and we sleep
We flourish in the morning like 
grass.
If the morning it grows anew
In the evening it is cut down and withers.
We are consumed by Your anger
We are overcome by your wrath.
You set out our sins before You,
Our secrets before Your presence.
Your anger darkens our days
Our lives expire
like a sigh.

The days of our years are three score and ten
Or even by reason of strength four-score years.
Laden with trouble and sorrow,
Life is quickly gone and we fly away.
Who can know the power of your wrath?
Who can measure the reverence due You?
Teach us to number our days
That we may obtain a wise heart.
Relent, Adonai! How long must we suffer?
Show mercy to Your servants.
Match days of sadness with days of joy
Equal to the years we have suffered.
Let Your work appear to your servants
And Your glory upon Your children.
May Adonai our God show us graciousness
And may Adonai prosper the work of our hands.

 PRAYER ON UNVEILING MONUMENTS 
You may read Psalm 23, Psalm 121, or any selected verse.
Conclude with El Malei Rachamim Memorial Prayer and the Mourner's Kaddish.

The body has died; the spirit it housed will never die.
On earth our dear ones do live on through those of us to whom they were so very precious.

(THE COVERING IS REMOVED)
We dedicate this monument to the blessed memory of   ___________________ , may his(her) soul be bound up in the bond of eternal life. We consecrate this memorial as a sign of undying love.

O God, we are grateful for the years we were privileged to share with him (her) - years when he (she) brought us so many pleasures and taught us so very much by example.

____________________ will never leave our hearts, where his (her) memory will endure as a blessing forever.

PSALM 23

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures
He leadeth besides the still waters
He restoreth my soul;
He guideth me in straight paths for his namesake.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil, for Thou art with me.
Thy rod and Thy staff, they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies.
Thou hast anointed my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life;
And I dwell in the house of the Lord forever.

PSALM 121

I lift up my eyes to the hills
Where does my help come from?

My help comes from the Lord
The Maker of heaven and earth.

He will not let your foot slip—
He who watches over you will not slumber
Indeed, he who watches over Israel
Will neither slumber nor sleep

The Lord watches over you—
The Lord is your shade at your right hand;
The sun will not harm you by day
Nor the moon by night.

The Lord will keep you from all harm—
he will watch over your life;
The Lord will watch over your coming and going
Both now and forevermore.

YISKOR: THE MEMORIAL OF DEPARTED SOULS
These memorial prayers ask God to grant perfect rest to the souls of deceased relatives and you may include a pledge to make a donation to charity.


May God remember the soul of my beloved ____________________who has passed to his/her eternal rest. I pledge charity in his/her name and pray that his/her soul be kept among the immortal souls of Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel, Leah and all the righteous men and women in heaven. Amen.

YISKOR MEDITATION
 
Our God and God of our fathers, may the memory of those who we lovingly remember as we say Yiskor this day influence our lives for good and direct our thoughts away from the vain and fleeting and toward that which is eternal. Teach us to emulate the virtues of our dear ones so that we too may be inspired to devote ourselves to the Torah, to Israel and to Thee, the source of all our aspirations. Thus shall the historic chain of Judaism remain unbroken, our departed mothers and fathers and all our loved ones be united with us. They live in us, in our hopes, and may their influence continue in our children. In Thee, O Lord, they and we are one.

Teach us to live wisely and unselfishly in truth and understanding, in love and peace, so that those who come after us may likewise remember us for good, as we this day affectionately remember those who were unto us a blessing. Amen.

AV HARACHAMIN
In this memorial prayer God is asked to remember the many Jewish communities destroyed through the ages.

The Father of mercy who dwells on high
in His great mercy
will remember with compassion
the pious, upright and blameless
the holy communities, who laid down their lives
for the sanctification of His name.
They were loved and pleasant in their lives
and in death they were not parted.
They were swifter than eagles and stronger than lions
to carry out the will of their Maker,
and the desire of their steadfast God.
May our Lord remember them for good
together with the other righteous of the world
and may He redress the spilled blood of His servants
as it is written in the Torah of Moses the man of God:
"O nations, make His people rejoice
for He will redress the blood of His servants
He will retaliate against His enemies
and appease His land and His people".
And through Your servants, the prophets it is written:
"Though I forgive, their bloodshed I shall not forgive
When God dwells in Zion"
And in the Holy Writings it says:
"Why should the nations say, 'Where is their God?'"
Let it be known among the nations in our sight
that You avenge the spilled blood of Your servants.
And it says: "For He who exacts retribution for spilled blood
remembers them
He does not forget the cry of the humble".
And it says:
"He will execute judgement among the corpse-filled nations
crushing the rulers of the mighty land;
from the brook by the wayside he will drink
then he will hold his head high." 
 

Av harachameem shochein m'romeem,
b'rachamav ha-atzumeem
hu yeefkod b'rachamim.
Hachaseedeem v'ha-y'shareem v'ha-t'meemeem,
k'heelot hakodesh shemas'ru nafsham
al kdushat Hasheim,
hane-eh-haveem v'ha-n'eemeem b'chayeihem,
uvmotam lo neefradu.
Meen'shareem kalu umeiarayot gaveiru
laasot r'tzon konam
v'cheifetz tzuram.
Yeezk'reim Eloheinu l'tova
eem sh'ar tzadeekei olam
v'yeenkom l'eineinu neekmat dam avadav hashafuch
kakatuv b'torat moshe eesh haEloheem:
harneenu goyeem amo
kee dam avadav yeekom
v'nakam yasheev l'tzarav
v'cheeper admato amo.
V'al y'dei avadecha haN'vee-eem katuv leimor:
V'neekeitee damam lo neekeitee
vaAdonoy Shochein b'tzeeyon.
Uvcheetvei hakodesh ne-eh-mar:
lama yom'ru hagoyeem ayei ehloheihem
yeevada bagoyeem l'eineinu
neekmat dam avadecha hashafuch.
V'omeir: kee doreish dameem
otam zachar
lo shachach tza-ah-kat anaveem.
V'omeir:
yadeen bagoyeem malei g'veeyot
machatz rosh al eretz raba.
Meenachal baderech yeeshte
al kein yareem rosh.

 

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